Why wrinkled skin matters so much!

Sorry for the title. This isn’t a beauty post but just an observation. πŸ™‚

I think one of the best things we young people could do is simply spend time with our older relatives. Drop by once in a while, say hello or just listen to their stories. Our grandparents (and the older generation in general) have so much wisdom to share but we are too busy with our mundane lives to receive the knowledge.

I believe our grandparents are the best antidepressants! They stand by our choices. They certainly can help us avoid the same human mistakes or direct us to the remedies that they achieved after a greater sacrifice. They can prove to be kind counsellors. And all they want in return is to listen to their stories. Their experiences are solutions to our problems.

Spending time with the older generation help us face the reality of life. It makes us think, distinguish between distraction and the absolute truth. We realise and register the things that matter in the end and are able to discard the illusions. Nonetheless these old souls teach us gratitude, compassion and patience in the most loving way preparing us to take better decisions ahead πŸ™‚

Why is it so hard every time to Let Go

Why is it so hard to let go

(The above picture of exora flowers is from my gallery)

Two days back I was watching a TV soap that I have been following since a year considering it has a sweet romantic love story in it. The other day they claim to air a special screening for an hour for that episode. 20 mins down the line, I was bored to death as there was no logic in the content and it seemed that the producers just dragged to fill in the hour or rather get the audience hooked to their TV sets.

I was annoyed thinking how could people in this era can take their audience for granted. How can they waste their audience’s time or think that people are less intelligent to even figure out these fillers. I was frustrated at the content writers, producers and the directors and questioning their school of logic.

I wonder how many of us have faced such a similar situation?

Even though the Tv soap has been losing its focus from the main story since past six months, nevertheless I have been still there. And why?

Well I wouldn’t agree that I am a big fan of it for I have missed out many episodes in between due to its insincerity. I am not in love with the story or characters anymore but I carried this HOPE in my heart that things will come back to its place, the story will bloom with emotions again. It will all start making sense. It will be real again and that they will live happily ever after. And because I gave my one year to it and somewhere I am not willing to accept that it didn’t turn out the way I expected. I come back watching the episodes with THIS hope

Our relationship work the same way sometimes, don’t they?Β We adjust and compromise to make things work. Even though I agree that both are required to sustain a healthy relationship. However one must not take it to an extent where one ends up facing abuse and insults.

Its hard for us to let go, because of THIS hope we carry in our hearts. We aren’t fond of the other person anymore, of their habits or the things they put on us or themselves. However we still hope that they would change. Those emotions will be back. Things will be real again. Our way of loving can’t fail even though none of the ways come in perfection. And somewhere we feel that because we have involved our feelings into the other person for so long and so wholeheartedly we deserve the affection in return. πŸ™‚

But does it happen that way? Everybody will have their own experiences and opinions to this question

With regards to that TV soap, things won’t change unless the team behind it is willing to change, willing to make its audience feel better, unless it realizes that the audience have put their trust in the team and that it is responsible for their emotions.

But until it reaches to that point, I am left with two options. Either I keep betting my heart upon the story or pick up the remote and switch to browse the shows that would enrich my soul.

And if we think again, maybe we all have these two choices even in our relationships. To let go is not easy. Its not some magic but its the way of our lives. The sooner we acknowledge the faster we can act upon it Β πŸ™‚

And the world keeps spinning around!

Recently I came across to a quote in one of my Google plus feed and was delighted by its positive message but only to be disheartened to find out the message is just too optimistic to be achieved in truth.

The following was the quote

When the mind of each person in this world knows true peace, the world will know peace. When the mind is peaceful it will start to see the true cause of peace, and at the same time the true cause of war.

Β With this clarity, we can finally put an end conflict, greed, and anger and usher in an era of peace. Once we know peace for ourselves, it will be reflected in our thoughts, our speech and in our actions. Love and good intention for mankind will arise and we will become the center of peace for people around like the sun shining warm light to big and small stars, both near and far. – 
Luang Phaw Dhammajayo

Although the message is full of truth I feel it is too nice to be realistic. History says that there was never a world with no problems or miseries. Our births have been a shuffle between the best and the worst. Even the ying-yang represents that there’s always good in bad and bad in the good. Even the Cherokee proverb confirms that it’s upto us which wolf we choose to feed.Β 

It’s depressing to realise that there never will be total eradication of conflict, greed, anger, hurt, darkness but there’s always a hope to reduce this darker side that exists. That’s the reason we are gifted with a brighter moon and stars even in darkest night so that we can survive on patience and faith.

This in return gives us the hope to choose to stand by the good, to encourage others and preserve the same for the future generations. Something which we must indeed pursue consciously. History has also assured that the good always ahead and so we can have enough reasons to live to sustain the same. πŸ™‚

My apologies I didn’t mean to challenge the beauty of the message but the objective is very illusionary. We are tightly interconnected and interdependent with our past karma that there will no complete escape for planet earth (bhuloka) from this cycle (samsara)

Justifying the gaps in Resume

explain resume gapNo, there are no real tips here to solve the problem. I wonder if it is such a problem at first place. Well, for the great HR team it always is!

So here I am with a bachelors in business degree and masters in marketing with a scholarship. My discomfort is that I come with many irregular gaps in my CV.

Now when I go for the interviews, it is like going on a battlefield to fight the HR scrutiny and irrelevant questions that has nothing to do with the correlation of my skills to the requirements of the job. I sit there like a puppet trying to justify this genuine gap that they think is the mammoth sin of my life and that I have no right to exist in any company!

One one hand I film situations that would still portray me as responsible person for falling into this gap, on the other hand I believe that my real reasons would prove me not only more responsible but also a conscious citizen of this universe.

I am a woman in my late twenties. Since my masters I have been walking through heavy transitional phases. Common, admit that twenties is a life changing graph for many of us. In this phase we are exposed to life’s ultimate truth. To the curious minds, this phase is an extensive quest for all the events happening around.

To be a better human being is more important to me than becoming the best business professional. It disappoints me that the highly qualified HR groups (at least this is how I would like to believe) simply fail to take note that a person holding credible degrees with scholarship wouldn’t be frivolous In her attitude. Her gaps wouldn’t be simply the reasons of her lack of her sincerity toward her career or life.

While I was living abroad to finish my masters I was exposed to the international events and crises. I was exposed to the deadly quake news, flood news, political downfall, near death experiences of other people, different race, culture and faith. These events tore me apart but also opened my soul toward first learning, accepting and finally embracing the variety of our planet, our world.

I began questioning to an extent that I broke down when I didn’t find answers to the satisfaction of my soul. There were only why and how dilemmas for every wrong thing that happened in the world. I just couldn’t ignore the misery. I felt a strong need to make a difference if not change the world entirely. I wish to light a small corner at least the corner I would be leaving in

I struggled hard with ideas. I brainstormed to find out a way where I could apply the knowledge of my degree to make a difference back to the society. Meanwhile I worked for few companies. however, I didn’t like the idea of being stuck to a cubicle but I had to work to clear my pending student loan to pay off other expenses.

My entire energy went in researching and reading material from books and internet. I read about psychology, philosophy, arts, business, crises etc. As soon as I felt i was little better financially I ended up quitting my jobs. However with my health taking a toll I felt the need again to earn only to pay to the doctors. Thanks to the polluted world we live and the toxins we are exposed to that no one can dare escape from the side effects!

I am nervous thinking how many people are suffering due the gaps in their resume in spite of their reasons being as genuine as they could be. We have been living in a great economic depression since past few years and there is a long time until everything will start falling into place. Sigh

No recruiter has to the time to listen to the above and so most of the people end up making short stores which offer only pieces of humor to the other party. I choose not to present anything that is not truth. I haven’t reached my destination yet. I am still carving my niche, making a place for myself but it certainly wasn’t a candy ride how the recruiters might be thinking otherwise πŸ™‚ I am content at the things that I have discovered for myself which makes me stand at a better position to take actions and decisions. If I get to be a part of any organization, I know I would be as responsible as I can be boosting its primary goals toward the society with my conscious skills.

I would also like to add that I am aware of the costs that a company has to bear during the selection and replacing an employee process and so any recruiter would think twice before hiring someone who got doesn’t have a consistent employment history. However the red flags would should only be counted if the individual has changed 10-20 companies within a short period of time.

With all due respect, my request to recruiters is that please broaden your own mindset before judging candidates as inefficient simply on their work gaps in the first round itself. Let the selection process be fair. Let it judge on what the candidate can bring on the table for the company. Put him to the test. Ask him to present his ideas that would benefit the company. and then pick one who you think would really make a difference to your company’s profits in a positive way

Not many come with finest demonstration of their Resumes. Some might even fail to beat the aptitude/skills test. But sometimes a philanthropic, conscious and a revolutionary attitude can help the company achieve a great corporate image in the business. Haven’t the great scholars affirmed that it is not the sales that ranks the company to the top but it is a consistent employee retention and customer loyalty makes the company rule over many hearts πŸ™‚

I strongly believe that being the best person at work is not the ultimate goal of life. To have brighter soul is important than having a higher degree or work experience.

My viewpoint of learning

I speak of my GMAT preparation especially the verbal section, which includes sentence correction, reading comprehension and critical reasoning. It has been amusing while studying these topics. While I have a fair grip on English language on professional grounds, I never thought of dissecting each and every word to meet the perfection standards. It gets annoying when I end up giving several mock tests to get the right answers, but the beauty of this process, of analyzing each sentence to the correct grammatical standards, makes me more confident to present a situation in an appealing way.

I have my goal to pursue PhD in near future definitely with am aim to bring a change with new methodologies. I think that if I take my GMAT preparation sincerely not only to crack the test but also truly sharpen my written and understanding skills, so that it helps me convey my research topics precisely. I have always believed in expressing our true selves to the fullest and such practice would help me demonstrate my thought process thoroughly in my dissertations and papers. And if I manage to do it the correct way, I will be able to get the right audience for my research work, and the outcome of the entire study programme becomes fruitful and meets the desired goals.

However, with the above example, I’ve come to an understanding that our approach toward learning any subject should be focused toward improving ourselves in a way, so that we could express our innermost desires finely through that channel of the subject. Communication is what holds all of us together, and if delivered avoiding misinterpretations and misunderstanding, it only strengthens the bonds between us. No learning should be tedious. The world is a big one, and each one of us can have our own room to refine our expression of speech through the process. We must welcome everything that is new and that challenges our fears from expressing all that floats in our hearts πŸ™‚

My love for roses and why we need them

my love for rosesI do not remember since when I have been drawing affection for lovely roses. I suppose most of us are enchanted by this beautiful flower. It has symbolized the best of emotions since ages. However we cannot ignore its duality of carrying thorns between its sweet fragrance. And this is where my beloved flower amuses me in the moments where no matter how hard it gets in our lives, we first choose to call upon a rose to caress our hearts. πŸ™‚

I believe a rose is a good reminder of our distinct individuality. We all have our weakness and shadows just like those thorns, but if we realise our true selves and aim to reach for the sunshine, we could gain the same magic to blossom into eternal sweetness.
From a rose, we must learn that we need to focus on glorifying our own souls and be humble enough to accept all that pricks our hearts along the journey of life.
Life won’t be easy but let’s make it worthy to live. Wise men have advised us throughout the history that hard times will be a part of our beautiful journey. The obstacles represent those thorns and the love filled moments mirror the essence of roses.
Whenever we are feeling down we could take a look at the duality of a rose. We could remind ourselves of the above. So in spite of our struggles, let us take a moment from our busy lives to smell a rose along way.

I remind myself of this flower’s simplicity every day and share the same here with everybody else. πŸ™‚